Friendship troubles

What would you do if your best friend went and got married but didn't trust you enough to tell you what was going on? Then she comes back and expects nothing to have changed. I made a comment that was totaly out of line and then the next thing I knew she was calling me a b**** and that the last 5 years before she got married ment nothing to me and that I never cared about her. A couple days later I wrote her a note apologizing for my comment that I had made. I found out through another friend (she is stuck in the middle) that she didn't mean that stuff that she had said. But the thing is that she has yet to make an attempt of appologizing. Then about a month after that happened I found out that my presten best friend is moving away.